I am still plugging away at this book. There have been a couple of "ah ha!" moments, one of which is the obvious oldie but goodie - 'practice what you preach.' Your child will model your behaviour, so ask yourself is your response to challenges one you want them to emulate? Are you modeling good problem solving and conflict resolution skills?
Also, I wanted to mention that none of the anecdotal information is about toddlers, some of the children are preschoolers. So for me this book is a little foreshadowing and a little preemptive. Which is a good thing in my opinion, but if you are looking for an instructional book on parenting toddlers, this isn't it. This is more holisitic and thoughtful.
Some parts are annoying though, like the way they are constantly using the word 'we'.... I know it was written by two people, but the counseling they provided the families in the book must have been done jointly too because everything is 'we did this' and 'we felt that.' I am not sure why it irritates me, but it does. Also they use the word 'impressed' even when something is bad. For example: "We were impressed by his inability to recognize the true issue." That may be correct, but it seems weird to me.
Anybody got the book in hand yet?